Laughable Loves by Milan Kundera

I was quite a way into my choice for 1969 on A Century of Books – Margaret Drabble’s The Waterfall – when I decided I’d had enough. I’m sure I’ll go back and finish it and, in another mood, might even enjoy it. Drabble is a brilliant writer. But I was finding the details of a new mother’s affair with her cousin’s husband very, very tedious. I simply didn’t care.

And so it is perhaps surprising that I turned, instead, to Kundera’s short story collection Laughable Loves, translated from Czech by Suzanna Rappaport. After all, if I was finding one person’s granular exploration of an affair very uninteresting, what was I hoping to find in a book that – in my edition at least – was described as ‘seven short stories of sexual comedy’?

Well, if I picked up this book blind, it would have gone right back on the shelf. Nothing sounds less up my street than ‘stories of sexual comedy’. But luckily this isn’t my first rodeo with Kundera, and I know that he’s an absolutely brilliant writer – and, indeed, this is a pretty inaccurate description of what we’ll find inside.

I think the stories in Laughable Loves are published in different orders depending on your edition, but mine starts with a fascinating one called ‘The Hitchhiking Game’. A young couple are on a road trip together and have just stopped for petrol when they slide by silent agreement into their hitchhiking game. He pretends to be a stranger; she pretends to be a hitchhiker. There is an eroticism to it, though it isn’t just foreplay. This is a way for them to find an exciting freedom in their personalities, able to say things they wouldn’t normally, but with the solid bedrock of a stable relationship beneath it. Only, in this story, the bedrock is starting to shift.

“I wouldn’t have to think too hard about what to do with such a beautiful woman,” said the young man gallantly, and at this moment he was once again speaking far more to his own girl than to the figure of the hitchhiker.

But this flattering sentence made the girl feel as if she had caught him at something, as if she had wheedled a confession out of him with a fraudulent trick. She felt toward him a brief flash of intense hatred and said: “Aren’t you rather too sure of yourself?”

The couple bob and weave between their parallel personalities – the real and the costume – with each sentence in danger of commenting on the wrong one. It’s a beautifully crafted story, growing steadily darker, and reminded me a lot (in theme and sensibility) of Harold Pinter’s play ‘The Lover’ (1962).

If ‘The Hitchhiking Game’ is fraught and tense, then the next story is elegiac – from the title ‘Let the Old Dead Make Room for the Young Dead’ onwards. The title comes from a middle-aged, unnamed woman visiting the grave of her (rather older) husband – only to find that somebody else is now buried there.

Upset, she went to the cemetery administration. They told her that upon expiration of leases, graves were canceled. She reproached them for not having advised her that she should renew the lease, and they replied that there was little room in the cemetery and that the old dead ought to make room for the young dead. This exasperated her and she told them, holding back her tears, that they knew absolutely nothing of humaneness or respect for man. But she soon understood that the conversation was useless. Just as she could not have prevented her husband’s death, so also was she defenseless against his second death, this death of an old dead man, which no longer permitted him to exist even as a dead man.

While in this old town, she meets a young man (also unnamed) who was infatuated with her in the past. He is 15 years younger than her – about the age she was, when he last saw her – and they quickly go from reminiscences to romance. Then the story becomes about her inner conflict: should she sleep with this younger, attractive man, or would it shatter his remembrance of her beauty which would, in turn, shatter her own self-image?

Yes, there was no doubt about it: if he got her to make love, it would end in disgust—and this disgust would then tarnish not only the present moment, but also the image of the woman of long ago, an image he cherished like a jewel in his memory.

It is a curious will-they-won’t-they, with rather more psychological acuity than that premise would usually be expected to hold. Kundera was only 40 when this book was published, and of course not a woman, but it seems to me (admittedly also about 40 and not a woman) a very insightful portrayal of the many emotions that face a woman in this woman’s position.

Ok, you’re thinking, I’m beginning to see why ‘sexual comedy’ was thrown about as a term. And, yes, quite a few of the stories have some sort of sexual impetus in them – but my favourite of the book doesn’t really. ‘Nobody Will Laugh’ is one of those things-spiral-out-of-hand stories. Klima, the narrator, is a professor who gets a letter from Zaturetsky, asking him to write a review letter of his scholarship, for a journal. The amateur scholar is laughably bad, and Klima enjoys mocking the research with his girlfriend, but wants to avoid conflict and so sends a vague letter implying (but not promising) that he’ll write a review at some point.

Zaturetsky is determined, though. He starts turning up at Klima’s office, and Klima’s long-suffering secretary makes up excuses for his absence. Eventually Zaturetsky is turning up at Klima’s home, and the further lies Klima makes up to avoid writing the review end up derailing his job, his relationship, and his standing in the notoriously censorious society. It’s a brilliant and believable exploration of a lie getting out of hand that has a through-line to Kundera’s first novel about a joke getting out of hand (The Joke), albeit that was very dark and ‘Nobody Will Laugh’ is the funniest story in this collection.

I’ve written at length about the first three stories because they are the strongest in the collection. Indeed, I was anticipating Laughable Loves being a late entry on my Best Reads of 2024 list – but sadly the collection is a bit uneven. The Symposium is particularly shapeless – about various medical staff and their would-be exploits – and others lack the excellent grasp of pace and structure that mark out the brilliance of the first three. Thankfully, Laughable Loves ends on a stronger story – ‘Edward and God’ – about a man who pretends to believe in God to appease his girlfriend. Like ‘Nobody Will Laugh’, it’s a lie that begins to get out of control, and a reminder of how much Communist Eastern Europe persecuted Christians at the time – though it is also a lie that begins to become psychologically more and more important in Edwards’s life, while still resisting the pat ending of a genuine conversion.

It’s always a joy to go back to a Kundera book. I’ve read eight now, somehow without including his most famous, The Unbearable Lightness of Being. This collection isn’t as postmodern and stylistically daring as he can be, but it is a reminder of his searing understanding of human relationships – both their tragedy and their comedy, often intertwined.

I can see why Penguin called these stories of sexual comedy, and that is an area that fascinates Kundera – but I think anybody buying the book on that premise will be disappointed, and it may well deter those who’ll find in Kundera far more nuance, psychological insight, and slanted beauty than those words suggest. (This edition has an intro by Philip Roth, which I have absolutely no interest in reading.)

Revisiting an old favourite

When I had a cold a month ago, feeling sorry for myself and tired, the latest Slightly Foxed Edition arrived through my door. I was a bit surprised that it was the series’ first fictional offering, but delighted to add to my collection of Diary of a Provincial Lady editions. And, since I was coldy and tired and grumpy, it was absolutely the perfect book to read straight away. As soon as I turn to that first diary entry on November 7th 1929 (my birthday! albeit more than half a century early), I was at home.

I’ve read and listened to Diary of a Provincial Lady by E.M. Delafield so, so many times that I basically know all the words at this point. There is no book more comforting to dive into. The daily reflections, wry asides, embarrassments, and ironies of a 1930s wife and mother are so funny, so self-deprecating, so curiously recognisable even to someone like me who shares very few of her experiences.

This new edition comes with an enjoyable preface by Slightly Foxed favourite Ysenda Maxtone Graham (who is able to make apt references to her own grandmother’s most famous work, Mrs Miniver). I don’t agree with Graham’s assertion that Diary of a Provincial Lady is the best of the series – that honour goes to The Provincial Lady Goes Further in my opinion – but I really appreciated her comparison with Delafield’s more sombre examinations of staid married life in books like The Way Things Are, and why the Provincial Lady books are somehow more effective.

I suspect you’ve all read and loved this book, so instead of a full review, I’m just going to put some quotes that made me laugh – even on the zillionth reading.

February 28th

Notice, and am gratified by, appearance of large clump of crocuses near the front gate. Should like to make whimsical and charming reference to these… but am interrupted by Cook, saying that the Fish is here, but he’s only brought cod and haddock and the haddock doesn’t smell any too fresh, so what about cod?

Have often noticed that Life is like that.

March 1st

Crowds of people at the reception. Know most of them, but am startled by strange lady in pink, wearing eye-glasses, who says that I don’t remember her – which is only too true – but that she has played tennis at my house. How, she says, are those sweet twins? Find myself telling her that they are very well indeed, before I know where I am. Can only trust never to set eyes on her again.

March 9th

Barbara goes to Evening Service, and I go to look in on her mother, whom I find in shawls, sitting in an armchair reading- rather ostentatiously – enormous Life of Lord Beaconsfield. I ask how she is, and she shakes her head and enquires if I should ever guess that her pet name amongst her friends once used to be Butterfly? (This kind of question always so difficult, as either affirmative or negative reply apt to sound unsympathetic. Feel it would hardly do to suggest that Chrysalis, in view of the shawls, would now be more appropriate.) However, says Mrs. Blenkinsop with a sad smile, it is never her way to dwell upon herself and her own troubles. She just sits there, day after day, always ready to sympathise in the little joys and troubles of others, and I would hardly believe how unfailingly these are brought to her. People say, she adds deprecatingly, that just her Smile does them good. She does not know, she says, what they mean. (Neither do I.)

April 11th

Look for Robin and eventually find him with the cat, shut up into totally unventilated linen-cupboard, eating cheese which he says he found on the back stairs.

(Undoubtedly, a certain irony can be found in the fact that I have recently been appointed to new Guardians Committee, and am expected to visit Workhouse, etc., with particular reference to children’s quarters, in order that I may offer valuable suggestions on questions of hygiene and general welfare of inmates… Can only hope that fellow-members of the Committee will never be inspired to submit my own domestic arrangements to similar inspection.)

If you haven’t read Diary of a Provincial Lady yet then, gosh, you have a treat ahead of you. And if you’re looking for a last-minute stocking filler, then this beautiful new Slightly Foxed edition is perfect.

#133: Do We Have Reading Rules? and Two Willa Cather Novels

Willa Cather and reading rules – welcome to episode 133 of ‘Tea or Books?’!

In the first half, we discuss reading rules – when we’re picking up a book, are there certain things that will definitely put us off? In the second half, we compare two novels by Willa Cather: Sapphira and the Slave Girl and A Lost Lady.

You can get in touch with suggestions, comments, questions etc (please do!) at teaorbooks[at]gmail.com – we’d love to hear from you. Find us at Spotify, Apple podcasts, wherever you get your podcasts. If you’re able to, we’d really appreciate any reviews and ratings you can leave us. And you can support the podcast at Patreon. Among the bonus things you’ll find is our talk from the Marlborough Literary Festival!

The books and authors we mention in this episode are:

The Empusium by Olga Tokarczuk
The Magic Mountain by Thomas Mann
Drive Your Plow Over the Bones of the Dead by Olga Tokarczuk
Back by Henry Green
Living by Henry Green
Loving by Henry Green
A Woman’s Place by Ruth Adam
A Bookshop of One’s Own by Jane Cholmondeley
One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez
The Waterfall by Margaret Drabble
Kamchatka by Marcelo Figueras
The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton
The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
Katherine Mansfield
Lucy Gayheart by Willa Cather
Death Comes for the Archbishop by Willa Cather
Shadows on the Rock by Willa Cather
My Antonia by Willa Cather
The Professor’s House by Willa Cather
Alexander’s Bridge by Willa Cather

Another Century of Books Round-Up

As December continues apace, so does my need to catch up with A Century of Books posts. So here is a whole bunch of mini-reviews (more mini than review) of books I’ve read for ACOB that I don’t have a whole blog post worth of stuff to say about…

Lolly Willowes (1926) by Sylvia Townsend Warner
I got my village book club reading Lolly Willowes, and listened to the audiobook. As usual, I was bowled over by how brilliant Warner’s writing is – about the dynamics of an overlooked spinster living with her brother’s family, and the lengths she calmly goes to for some form of autonomy. I’ve read the novel many times and I always love it. It’s fair to say my book group were more mixed… and generally confused when she becomes a witch.

The Little Disturbances of Man (1959) by Grace Paley
Enormous Changes at the Last Minute (1974) by Grace Paley

Both these collections have been on my shelf for a very long time, and I’ve heard such good things about Paley’s short stories… but I ended up feeling quite lukewarm, and I can’t think of anything to say about them?

The Tao of Pooh (1982) by Benjamin Hoff
A fun book explaining the principles of Tao through the principles of Winnie the Pooh et al – and quoting liberally from the books, so enjoyable chiefly because it was a bit like re-reading the Pooh books. I’m not sure I remember much about Taoism off the back of it, but I certainly enjoyed remembering what a genius A.A. Milne was.

Tentacles of Unreason (1985) by Joan Givner
A slim collection of short stories by Joan Givner, whose The Self-Portrait of a Literary Biographer I enjoyed so much last year. Definitely not in the same league as her autobiographical writing IMO, but very readable and some very interesting character creation. I’d definitely read more stories by her, but it didn’t have the same oh-wow-this-is-excellent spark that her other book had.

Keepers of the Flame (1992) by Ian Hamilton
This is subtitled ‘literary estates and the rise of biography’, and so I’d thought it might be similar to Janet Malcolm’s ruthlessly brilliant book about Ted Hughes and Sylvia Plath – or, more accurately, about their literary estates and biographers. Hamilton covers a wide, wide range from Donne to Shakespeare to Hardy to Plath but I wished it had been (frankly) more gossipy. But perhaps I shouldn’t hope for a Malcolmesque book from someone who isn’t Malcolm. On its own terms, this is very well researched. It’s not really about literary estates or biography until the final chapters, but it’s an interesting enough walk through the history of authorial reputation.

Notes from a Small Island (1995) by Bill Bryson
A few years ago, I gave up on Bryson’s much-loved book about touring the UK. I’ve loved some of his books, but Notes from a Small Island felt a bit try-hard. It turns out I enjoy it an awful lot more as an audiobook – my second attempt at it was far more successful. It’s still not very subtle humour, and his book on Shakespeare is definitely much better and funnier in my opinion, but I’m glad I got closer to seeing what the fuss is about.

Uncle Tungsten (2001) by Oliver Sacks
I adore Sacks, and I loved his much-later autobiography. This earlier attempt of ‘memories of a chemical boyhood’ was interesting to me when it was autobiographical, and much more tedious when it was explaining various histories of science. I’ve realised why I love his neuroscience: because it is unabashedly about people. I’m just not interested in science that isn’t directly, obviously about people’s behaviours. That’s a failing in me, not the book, of course.

The Audacity (2021) by Katherine Ryan
Katherine Ryan’s memoir is exactly what you expect it to be. For me, that was a good thing.

Why I chose these books in Hay-on-Wye

I’ve been away in Hay-on-Wye for a couple of nights, staying in a lovely airbnb cottage with some friends. I’ve stayed overnight in Hay once before, but I’ve never done two nights. It was lovely to have a whole day without having to worry about driving there or back.

Friday was a beautiful day, and then The Storm hit. I’ve never seen Hay so empty on a Saturday as it was today! But I did my bit to keep the bookshops going – though, having gone in February, there wasn’t as much turnover as there would usually be between my visits. Some of the books below are ones I’ve picked up more than once in the past, and finally succumbed to…

Country Boy by Richard Hillyer
My LibraryThing catalogue told me I didn’t have this Slightly Foxed edition, which turned out not to be the case. Indeed, I even reviewed it back in 2013. But it will make a nice present for someone!

Modern English Fiction by Gerald Bullett
I wouldn’t normally pick up this sort of pocket intro to English literature, even one coming from 1926, but I was intrigued by his very personal take on the big names of the period – and the chapter ‘Eccentricities’, which I see includes May Sinclair.

Doctor Serocold by Helen Ashton
Rachel often talks about Ashton’s novels on Tea or Books? podcast, and so I was really pleased to stumble across this fairly hard-to-find copy of one of her early novels.

A Gentleman of Leisure by P.G. Wodehouse
Do I need more Wodehouse novels? Arguably no, given how many unread I have on my shelves. But I was in a shop where the paperbacks were £1 each and… you see my predicament.

People in the Room by Norah Lange
Someone recommended Lange’s childhood memoir to me, which put her name on my radar. This one is about a women spying on three women in the house opposite – unsure what their relationships are or what they’re doing. It sounds fascinating, and I hope it lives up to the intriguing blurb.

Twice Round the Clock by Billie Houston
A British Library Crime Classic that I don’t have was on the £1 shelves. Again, you see my predicament…

Confessions of Mrs Smith by Elinor Goulding Smith
Mrs Smith is apparently the wife of Robert Paul Smith, a humorist I have not heard of – flicking through this, it looks like a comic take on being a wife and mother, and for some reason that is totally my jam.

The Friend in Need by Elizabeth Coxhead
Barnham Rectory by Doreen Wallace
Out of Tomorrow by Stella Morton
Love Thy Neighbour by Sally Benson
Hush, Gabriel! by Veronica Parker Johns
I’ve grouped these because I basically don’t know anything about them, and they’re all mid-century novels (or, with Benson, short stories) that I’ve decided to chance my arm on. I’m particularly interested by The Friend in Need, which the blurb says is about social work – so could be one of the earliest novels about the modern social care system.

Ammonite and Leaping Fish by Penelope Lively
I’ve not enjoyed Lively’s non-fiction as much as her fiction, but I thought I’d give this one a go – Lively says it’s not a memoir so much as a book about old age.

Roman Stories by Jhumpa Lahiri
Jhumpa Lahiri was the only author I went hoping to find, after loving her stories Interpreter of Maladies earlier in the year. I thought there would be armfuls of Lahiri books about but I only found a couple – and the other was such a massively tall hardback that I didn’t think I’d ever be able to hold it. So it was these recent Roman Stories that came home with me – translated from Italian by Lahiri herself.

Man With A Blue Scarf by Martin Gayford
And finally, one that’s been on my wishlist for a long time, though I don’t remember where I first heard about it – a diary about sitting for a Lucian Freud portrait. I think it also looks at his work more broadly, but there’s something I find fascinating about recording the process that leads to the still image.

Ok, there we have it! As usual, I’d be interested to know if you’ve read any – or where you’d start. I’m doing my restricted book buying Project 24 next year, so finishing 2024 on a haul high.

Choose by M. de Momet

Last year, I decided to watch three films which dealt with oh-so-relatable problem of “Oops! I remarried and my first spouse is still alive!” The first was the execrable modern schlock One True Loves; the second was misogynistic Too Many Husbands (1940) and the third was another 1940 hit and comfortably the best of the lot – My Favorite Wife, starring Cary Grant and possibly overshadowed by him also starring in The Philadelphia Story and His Girl Friday in 1940. Big year for Cary.

I will say this: the oops-remarried genre sparks some very good titles, regardless of the quality of the films themselves. When I saw Choose (1947) by M. de Momet advertised on the back of another 1940s book, I couldn’t resist getting a copy – sadly without the excellent dustjacket above. I forget exactly what the advert said, but it was clearly another novel where someone found themselves in an accidental bigamy pickle.

We rush straight into the heart of the thing. Shelly has been married to Peter for a year when (on page two) she receives a letter from her first husband, John, saying that he is coming home. He went missing during the Second World War and was presumed dead – but has in fact been in a POW camp for years, missing an arm and a leg but otherwise fully alive. Shelly’s friend George offers what I could consider some rather unduly calm advice:

“Try not to worry too much, it may settle itself quite easily. One of these two must have a greater claim.”

“But which? That’s the question. Which? John had the first claim, and Peter has the last. I can’t see the answer to this – I don’t think there is an answer.”

Before John comes home and discovers the truth, we are whisked back to their initial meeting and courtship. Indeed, the next 140 pages of this 200-page novel focus on the development of their romance and their young marriage and happiness together. Reader, any hope I had for Peter winning the husband-off quickly faded. Choose is really a fairly silly romance hung on a conceit that de Momet, for some reason, thinks should be incidental to seeing John be forceful and bold and Shelly be giggly and overwhelmed. As an example…

She held out her hand. He took it and let it lie on his outstretched palm. “What a little hand,” he murmured. “So very little – it’s like a child’s. You’re so young… so young.” His voice was low as if he were speaking a blessing.

Shelly didn’t feel lonely any more – she felt as if someone had wrapped something very soft and comforting about her as a protection from the hashness of the world.

I wondered about ‘M. de Momet’, about whom I haven’t been able to find any info. Is ‘M.’ an initial, or does it stand for ‘Monsieur’, with that French-sounding surname? My suspicion is that it’s a pseudonym – and it certainly feels more like a woman writing for most of the novel, though I was given pause by how much Shelly enjoys John explaining things to her. Surely only a man would have written that part of their wooing?

Choose isn’t badly written, and it certainly isn’t well-written. As you might guess from the excerpt above, it rattles along good-naturedly. There are some enjoyable descriptions of homes and nature and a very idealised version of young love. It toys with being daring at times, though in such an unprogressive way that I can’t imagine anybody being scandalised by the hints at sex – though perhaps we might be more scandalised now by his careless ignoring of consent.

He bent and kissed her.

“Shelly, I am going to sleep with you tonight.”

“No,” she whispered.

“Don’t be afraid. It’s a horrid business for a girl, so we’ll get it over now. I don’t want our honeymoon to be spoilt.”

She turned her head so that her face was buried in his shoulder.

Yikes. Anyway, by the time we’re back in the present, we haven’t learned a thing about Peter or why Shelly chose to marry him – only that she turned him down a fair few times first. He doesn’t stand a chance in the choice of the title – and I’m rather astonished that M. de Momet decided to make that decision such a small part of the novel. It feels like such a waste of an inventive idea – which can be treated comically, tragically, or everything in between. Instead, in Choose it is an afterthought to a very ordinary, silly, enjoyable and forgettable 1940s romance novel.

A Woman’s Place 1910-1975 by Ruth Adam

I have well over a hundred Persephone Books, and the hit rate of successes is astonishingly high. There’s a reason that they have the devotion and respect of legions of readers. And so why had I left A Woman’s Place 1910-1975 by Ruth Adam neglected since I bought it 2008(!)? Even after reading – and loving – Adam’s memoir A House in the Country in 2020, I didn’t race to my shelves and devour more by her. More fool me! Because A Woman’s Place 1910-1975 is a remarkable, and incredibly readable, achievement.

Over the course of the book, Adam traces the most significant societal changes affecting (and effected by) women in the UK. We see the fight for suffrage, the impact of two world wars, changing attitudes to sex and so much more. Adam covers an astonishing range of topics – divorce, abortion, equal pay, employment law, female MPs – and does so with a level of research that would be impressive with the internet. I’ve no idea how she has so many statistics, as well as anecdotes and quotations from major historical figures.

She is so good at putting her finger on significant moments, and she balances her research with a total accessibility. You can tell she is a novelist, because characters (albeit real people) are so well-drawn and impress, inspire, frustrate, or move us in turn. I’m going to end up quoting an awful lot of this book – let’s start with one of the moments that she demonstrates as seismic in altering women’s lives:

The change from a large nineteenth-century family to the small twentieth-century one, as a social custom, took place with startling speed, so that mothers could be shocked or envious (probably both) at the difference between the life of their married daughters and their own past. The transformation was brough about – not by a Lysistrata-type political campaign or by a change of heart on the part of the male sex – but, like most of the landmarks in women’s emancipation, by a material fact: which in this case was the invention of convenient birth-control equipment.

And I’m going to immediately move onto another quotation, about nursing, as it’s a very representative example of Adam’s approach to social history:

The second-largest professional women’s group was that of the nurses, who were 78,000 strong in 1911. Their record in the women’s struggle for work-status was less single-minded and less successful than that of teachers. One reason was that, since Florence Nightingale, they had been brainwashed about making sacrifices for their vocation, such as putting up with long hours, low pay and dismal working conditions, which was extremely convenient for their employers. The other, less creditable, reason was because the leaders of the profession wasted a lot of time and energy on in-fighting, mostly on the subject of class distinctions, when they should have been united against an all-male government which refused to give them even the standing of a recognised profession until it came to the point where they dare not refuse.

What makes it so representative? It’s partly because it combines a statistic with the stories of women behind the number – but it’s also a great example of the subjectivity she weaves into her history. She is unafraid of putting forward her own opinion, highlighting where people have acted poorly in history, or bringing out elements of the treatment of women that infuriate her. A Woman’s Place certainly isn’t dry. You can feel Adam’s passion throughout her record, and it makes for a much better book than if it had been otherwise.

To structure her book, Adam characterises decades by significant events and movements. It does mean that these get hermetically sealed within certain periods – so we see changing attitudes to sex in one chapter, or marriage in another, or the role of women in parliament in another, and so on. Naturally these are not things that begin and end within a decade, and you can find yourself thinking (in the middle of a section on divorce law, say) – what about the job market? It was a wise decision on Adam’s part to compartmentalise to an extent, so you just have to go with it.

While I knew a large amount of what Adam covers – as much of it overlaps with things I’ve studied in my own academic research – there was still an awful lot that was new to me. As one instance, I didn’t know about the way the suffrage movement turned their efforts fully to the war effort at the outbreak of the First World War – putting their original mission on hold in an instant. Adam describes Millicent Fawcett’s decision in a very evocative way: ‘Only the age-old obligation of women, to be self-effacing and self-sacrificing, to give up their own less important interests when a men’s crisis arose, still remained.’

Note that she says ‘obligation’ rather than ‘character’. This isn’t something that is inherent to Fawcett and her ilk – it is an expectation imposed on them, and to women throught this book. So much of this book is really a history of the way men have treated women – how their decisions and impositions either expanded or limited women’s lives. That’s not to do down the work women did to effect change (and a small group of men who battled alongside them) – just to comment that, sadly often, change happened when powerful men stopped being obstacles.

During the war, women’s lives changed dramatically: they were not only allowed to start working, but actually encouraged to. Adam turns her attention to the ways this worked, particularly on the question of equal pay. It’s a theme that recurs throughout A Woman’s Place – and I hope you’re prepared to be infuriated by the different, feeble reasons that powerful men gave to avoid passing equal pay legislation, and the similarly callous ways that they evaded paying it once legislation was passed. From the outset, though, two workplaces offered equal pay without quibble. I could have guessed for a week and I don’t think I’d have come up with the correct two:

The London bus conductresses were one of the only two groups of women workers who were given equal pay for equal work at once, without question. The others were the women welders, who had been trained by an organisation set up by the one-time London Society for Women’s Suffrage

Speaking of war, Adam says ‘a quick change of character has been demanded of them [women] every ten years or so of this century. Men are not required to be flexible in the same way.’ That seemed a rare misfire in A Woman’s Place. What greater ‘flexibility’ could be required then to be taken from your office job or factory and be told you have to start killing people in a foreign trench? There is no onus on A Woman’s Place to cover men’s 20th-century experiences, but – while I see what she’s getting at – this is quite a silly statement.

And the downside to a book that relishes in its subjectivity is, of course, that it might date horribly. Surprisingly little of substance has dated in the book since it’s 1975 publication – the two things that struck me were the assumption that there would be no minimum wage, and the other assumption that university education was free. But then there are paragraphs like this, about the high death count in the First World War leading to large numbers of unmarried women:

The war years, which had yielded such a rich harvest to the women struggling for sex equality, had cost them too much. All the gains in status and freedom and independence were, in the end, arid and tasteless without their men there to witness them. It meant that young women and girls had to face the prospect of forced virginity, and parents the long boredom of waiting for death without grandchildren to give any meaning to their old age.

This earned three pencilled exclamation marks in my margin! Women’s independence is ‘arid and tasteless’ without men?? Old people have no meaning in their life without grandchildren??? Yikes, Ruth Adam, yikes. I’ll charitably assume you are doing a bit of character work, here. (And let’s not get started on her statement that ‘The Lesbians’ – her capitals – were ‘partly a product of the mutilated society; that is, young women pairing together as a second-best because there were not enough men to go round.’)

But these are minor quibbles in a book that is an extraordinary achievement. I’d bought it, as I will buy any Persephone Book, but I hadn’t been particularly enthusiastic about actually reading it. If it weren’t for A Century of Books, A Woman’s Place could have lived on my shelves for many more years – but I’m so glad it didn’t. Ruth Adam combines an incredible amount of thorough research with a real gift for storytelling. Of course this book doesn’t tell the whole story of British women over the course of 65 years – how could it? – but it is a detailed, captivating portrait of a sizeable portion of that population. Or, to be more accurate, of the expectations they faced and the achievements they managed in the face of them. I’ll close with Adam’s final paragraph:

A woman born at the turn of the century could have lived through two periods when it was her moral duty to devote herself, obsessively, to her children; three when it was her duty to society to neglect them; two when it was right to be seductively ‘feminine’ and three when it was a pressing social obligation to be the reverse; three separate periods in which she was a bad wife, mother and citizen for wanting to go out and earn her own living, and three others when she was an even worse wife, mother and citizen for not being eager to do so.

Frederica by Georgette Heyer

Believe it or not, I’ve only read one Georgette Heyer before – I listened to April Lady and really enjoyed it. In the three years since, I’ve bought quite a few Heyer novels but haven’t actually got around to reading any of them. A little while ago, I thought I’d see if any of the Heyer titles on my shelves matched gaps on A Century of Books – and landed on Frederica (1965), which comes rather late in her publishing career.

Like most of Heyer’s novels, this is a Regency romance – and she certainly enters into the style and ethos of a novel from the period. How many 1960s novels would open with this lack of urgency?

Not more than five days after she had despatched an urgent missive to her brother, the Most Honourable the Marquis of Alverstoke, requesting him to visit her at his earliest convenience, the widowed Lady Buxted was relieved to learn from her youngest daughter that Uncle Vernon had just driven up to the house, wearing a coat with dozens of capes, and looking as fine as fivepence. “In a smart new curricle, too, Mama, and everything prime about him!” declared Miss Kitty, flattening her nose against the window-pane in her effort to squint down into the street. “He is the most tremendous swell, isn’t he, Mama?”

Lady Buxted responded in repressive accents, desiring her not to use expressions unbefitting a lady of quality, and dismissing her to the schoolroom.

Uncle Vernon – more commonly known as the Marquis of Alverstoke, or just Alverstoke – is very wealthy and very selfish. His sisters are forever importuning him with requests to use his power and connections to help their various offspring, and he languidly refuses to do any such thing because it doesn’t interest him. There is a very believable grown-up-siblings dynamic between them, with a fair dose of Mr Bennett being needlessly antagonistic to his wife in Pride and Prejudice, all the while intending to help. But more often than not, Alverstoke won’t do anything for anybody else unless he finds it interesting. It’s not a very attractive character trait, truth be told, and it’s fortunate that Heyer manages to make almost every occasion an example of an exception to the rule – so the rule is really just what we are told, and the exceptions are what we are shown.

Bursting into this contented world are the Merriville family. They are oprhaned and as desolate as you’d expect of a family who will never have to work for a living. Oldest of the lot is (as we might expect from the title) Frederica – a sensible, clever, funny and caring woman who considers herself on the shelf as a spinster, aged 24. Next is Charis, who has that Regency trio of characteristics: beautiful, dim-witted, and kind. And finally three brothers, one of whom is away at Oxford. The other two are Jessamy, pious and anxious, and Felix, enthusiastic and boisterous.

It’s an enjoyable whirlwind to encounter, and Alverstoke finds himself rather taken aback. Having initially turned down the opportunity to help them as guardian, he ends up agreeing when he sees that they aren’t really mercenaries – and that Frederica is a capable, unsentimental woman. From this point onwards, none of the negative character traits that we’ve been led to believe beset Alverstoke ever really appear again.

What makes Frederica so fun is Heyer’s unceasing commitment to the Regency vibe. It’s a rich, detailed prose which you can’t read quickly, as the verbal sparring between characters is delightfully Austenesque and the narrative voice itself is, if not on Austen’s level, still great fun. Here, for instance, is Alverstoke trying to get Frederica to be chaperoned in town:

“I was under the impression that I warned you that in London country ways will not do, Frederica!”
“You did!” she retorted. “And although I can’t say that I paid much heed to your advice it so happens that I am accompanied today by my aunt!”
“Who adds invisibility to her other accomplishments!”

and here is Alverstoke being wonderfully bitchy to his sister:

“Do you mean to tell me that Mr. Trevor read my letter?” demanded Lady Buxted indignantly. “Your secretary?”
“I employ him to read my letters,” explained his lordship.
“Not those written by your nearest and dearest!”
“Oh, no, not them!” he agreed.”

The only downside to Heyer’s commitment to verisimilitude – in my opinion – is the vast quantity of era-appropriate slang, particularly from the boys. Here’s a selection, just flicking through: basket-scrambler, ninny-hammer, Friday-faced, high fidgets, rumgumption, Queer Nabs, mawworm, and so on and so forth. I can see how some readers would love these touches of authenticity, but they always took me out of the action. They were the only times it felt like Heyer’s researchw as being unceremoniously dumped into the dialogue.

To go back to the hero and heroine: what really warmed me to Alverstoke was his reluctant devotion to the young boys. (I didn’t need to warm to Frederica, as I loved her from the off.) And Heyer does the boys so well – especially the youngest, who believes he is offering a great treat to the men he meets by talking to them at length about mechanics, and being escorted to mills or something. Her eye for young people is so accurate, and timeless.

The Marquis believed himself to be hardened against flattery. He thought that he had experienced every variety, but he discovered that he was mistaken: the blatantly worshipful look in the eyes of a twelve-year-old, anxiously raised to his, was new to him, and it pierced his defences.

Frederica is a long book, and did feel long. My copy was about 300 pages but the font is tiny – I see other editions are around the 400-page mark. There are some brilliant set pieces – a runaway dog; a chase after a hot air balloon – but most of the novel is simply the steady, detailed study of these people interacting, squabbling, matching wits and falling in love. I had to relax into it and not expect anything to happen quickly – but, on those terms, it was a total treat.

Books from Malvern and Tewkesbury

As mentioned, I spent a couple of nights in beautiful Malvern – sadly I felt pretty ropey with a cold, but it didn’t stop me popping into the excellent Malvern Bookshop, and Amnesty secondhand bookshop and the Malvern Book Collective. For a small town, it is well-served with bookshops! On my way home, I stopped for chips in Tewkesbury and a pop-in to Cornell Books, which has a very well-selected range of fiction. And I had a nice chat with the lady there about Virago and the Provincial Lady.

Here’s what I picked up over the weekend…

The Provincial Lady by E.M. Delafield
Look, I’m well aware that space is limited in my flat and I don’t technically NEED lots of editions of the Provincial Lady series. But it’s my one indulgence in duplicates, and I couldn’t leave this lovely cover behind.

Susan Spray by Sheila Kaye-Smith
I’ve still only read her non-fiction, but have a couple of her novels. I’m a bit scared they’ll be Mary-Webb-style yokel rural novels, but I flicked through and didn’t see any excruciating dialect, so hopefully I’m safe

Open the Door! by Catherine Carswell
You might have spotted that the British Library Women Writers series recently reprinted her novel The Camomile – it’s one of the handful of BLWW titles that I didn’t recommend, so she was a new author to me. She only had two novels published, and this is the other one

Antarctica by Claire Keegan
I’ve enjoyed but not loved the two Keegan books I’ve read – I hesitate to call them novellas, as they are clearly short stories packaged as individual books. So I thought getting a collection of short stories could be a good next step… and I think perhaps it was mentioned on A Good Read recently?

This Could Be Everything by Eva Rice
LOVE Eva Rice and have been meaning to pick this one up ever since it was published.

Rhine Journey by Ann Schlee
The only book in my haul that was in a new-books bookshop – I have a personal rule that I buy at least one book if I’ve gone into an independent bookshop, and you can imagine how HARD it is to keep to that rule. Firstly, I trust Daunt Books to pick gems; secondly, a fair few people highlighted how good it was during #SpinsterSeptember.

The Second Mrs Ellyot by Jennifer Mannock
I don’t know anything about this 1947 book or author, and the internet doesn’t seem to provide any further details – but I am always intrigued by a name in the title, and this one has got me asking questions. Are we in for a Rebecca situation?

Prelude by Beverley Nichols
“Nobody buys him any more!” said the lady in the shop, when I came away with this novel and a couple other Nichols titles for a friend who also loves him. She’s right, and that’s why I always manage to snap them up!

Osebol: Voices from a Swedish Village by Marit Kapla
This chunkster might be familiar if you listen to Tea or Books? podcast, because it was one of Rachel’s favourite reads of 2022. She made it sound so interesting that I couldn’t resist when I found it in a charity shop.

Quite pleased with my eclectic mix, and spoilt for choice with where to start. Anything that you’d recommend, or particularly interests you?

StuckinaBook’s Weekend Miscellany

Hello hello – it’s been a while since I did a Weekend Miscellany, hasn’t it? And I am spending at least some of the weekend in a lovely airbnb in Malvern, as a little treat to myself. Sadly I also have a horrible cold, but… well, if you have to have a cold, I suppose it’s better to have it in a pretty airbnb? Maybe? It’s certainly warmer than my flat. Malvern also has some wonderful secondhand bookshops, so watch this space for a haul, if I come away successful.

Oh, btw, I’ve sort of left Twitter – my account is still there, but inactive. You can find me at BlueSky, which is currently rather nicer and bookish and not run by a cartoon supervillain.

Anyway, hope you’re doing well. Here’s a book, a blog post, and a link!

1.) The link – I love Tracy Chevalier’s Books of My Life in the Guardian. Along with the sort of classics you might expect, she mentions the sort of authors we love in this part of the book internet – Elizabeth von Arnim, Dorothy Whipple, R.C. Sherriff.

Dear Oliver: An unexpected friendship with Oliver Sacks (Hardback)

2.) The book – Dear Oliver by Susan R. Barry is a book my brother got me for my birthday, and I’m excited to read it. You might know about my abiding love for neuroscientist and lovely human Oliver Sacks – this book is about the friendship that Barry (a fellow neuroscientist) had with Sacks over a decade of letters. (Cheating, with another book – Sacks’ selected letters are also recently out.)

3.) The blog post – Jacqui always has such good ideas for book lists – I enjoy the variety of her list of haunting, atmospheric novellas. I’ve only read three of them, and am especially glad now that I recently bought Jhumpa Lahiri’s Whereabouts.