On The Other Side by Mathilde Wolff-Mönckeberg

Yesterday I wrote about Monica Dickens’ The Winds of Heaven, and told you that it was towards the fluffier end of the Persephone Books canon – and promised to take you to the other side of their spectrum today.  Well, here it is – one of Persephone’s non-fiction titles, On The Other Side: Letters to My Children From Germany 1940-1946 by Mathilde Wolff-Mönckeberg, translated by her daughter Ruth Evans, and first published in 1979. 

On The Other Side is effectively Mathilde’s diary, framed through letters to her children in Britain (although she never sent them), and documents what life was like in Germany during the Second World War.  Despite having read a lot about the British Home Front, the German equivalent is a perspective I have never read firsthand.  It helps that Mathilde is a delightful person, easy to empathise with – what other response would we have to someone who would say this?

Life would have no purpose at all if there weren’t books and human beings on loves, whose fate one worries about day and night.
This is going to be one of those ‘reviews’ which are, in fact, mostly quotations from the book – because the excerpts I’ve selected give such a comprehensive overview of the diary that it would be a waste of time for me to try and paraphrase them. 

Rather naively, I hadn’t really realised that people like Mathilde existed in wartime Germany.  I thought the German public would have been divided into those who supported Nazism, those who were apathetic, and those who lied to so much by Nazi propaganda that, though not sympathetic to those views, had no way of knowing what was going on.  But Mathilde shows that there were many exceptions:

Practically everyone knows that all that bluff and rubbish printed in
the newspapers and blazoned out on the wireless is hollow nonsense, and
when big speeches are made nobody listens any more.
Indeed, the account she gives of the appalling public life of Jewish Germans could scarcely be bettered by a textbook in its fullness, nor its empathy

Perhaps you cannot imagine what life is like for Jews.  Their ration cards are printed on the outside with a large red J, so that everybody knows at one that they are non-Aryan.  All women have to add the name Sarah to their first names, the men Israel.  They never get special rations, such as coffee, tea or chocolate, nor do they received clothing coupons.  After 7.30 at night they are not allowed out into the street; their radios and telephones have been removed.  Practically every shop and restaurant has a notice saying ‘Jews are not wanted here.’  It is so vile and mean that I can only blush with embarrassment while I write this.  But you and your children must know of this, that things like this are possible in Germany under our present regime.  You will hardly credit all this, or the fact that we others have stood by and said nothing.  And there are much, much worse things.  Many people have committed suicide because they could not bear this indignity.  Then, like vultures and hyenas, they [the Nazis] rush in and grab the belongings of the dead; honest names are smeared with filth, and decent Germans have been driven to emigrate by the thousand.
When reading about the war from the perspective of a British person (or, I daresay, the French, Belgian etc. – I haven’t read their accounts) there is much pain and anguish, but little internal conflict.  Love of country and hatred of the enemy can be expressed in a single breath, without contradiction.  While individuals may question the point of war as a concept, or the political manoeuvres of those in power, this couldn’t compare to the conflict Mathilde experienced with love of country and hatred of Hitler.

But however much we strain with every nerve of our beings towards the downfall of our government, we still mourn most deeply the fate of our poor Germany.  It is as if the final bomb hit our very soul, killing the last vestige of joy and, hope.  Our beautiful and proud Germany has been crushed, ground into the earth and smashed into ruins, while millions sacrificed their lives and all our lovely towns and art treasures were destroyed.  And all this because of one man who had a lunatic vision of being ‘chosen by God’.  May he and his followers be caught in just retribution.
However engaging and thought-provoking On The Other Side was for Mathilde’s accounts of the war, the actual events were very similar to those in Britain – shortages, bombings, fear for loved ones.  It is certainly all moving, but it has become familiar ground in fiction and non-fiction.  The part I found most fascinating concerned Mathilde’s experiences after the war was over; it was, again, something I had never read about from a German’s perspective.

6 May 1945: It is Sunday and I almost hesitate to put pen to paper.  Too much has happened in the few days since last I wrote.  The whole world has changed and part of the crushing nightmare that oppressed us for so long has been lifted during these five days.  I have listened quite openly to an American and to a British radio station, no longer threatened with the death sentence for this.  I can go along the road and proclaim loudly, “Adolf Hitler, the most evil criminal in the world,” and nobody will tell me to shut up.  Can you imagine that?  And can you picture our Andreasstrasse full of English trucks and private cars; on the pavements and in the front gardens a milling crowd of English soldiers – and it is a Welsh regiment, Ruth dear.  They serenely patrol the district: one is sitting in the middle of the road playing with a dog, another one is playing a recorder on a balcony; a couple tumble in and out of the house, for downstairs a captain has moved into the bottom flat.  What a lot of coming and going!
Although Mathilde and her husband welcomed the end of the war, and were very grateful for being in the British-controlled part of Germany (apparently other areas, particularly that under the rule of Russia, suffered greatly), the British army were, probably understandably, reluctant at first to sympathise with the German public. This was perhaps the most moving passage in the book:

He [her husband] was so passionately devoted to Great Britain and all it stood for.  Now he is disillusioned by the limitless arrogance and the dishonesty with which they treat us, proclaiming to the whole world that only Germany could have sunk so low in such abysmal cruelty and bestiality, that they themselves are pure and beyond reproach.  And who destroyed our beautiful cities, regardless of human life, of women, children or old people?  Who poured down poisonous phosphorous during the terror raids on unfortunate fugitives, driving them like living torches into the rivers?  Who dive-bombed harmless peasants, women and children, in low-level attacks, and machine-gunned the defenceless population?  Who was it, I ask you?  We are all the same, all equally guilty, and if my entire being was not straining towards a re-union with you, life would be nothing but torture and abhorrence.
As I promised at the start, I have mostly quoted from the book, rather than giving my own views.  It’s one of those books which I believe is too important to have me weigh in on it.  I couldn’t say that I loved Mathilde’s voice as much as I love Nella Last’s, but they are books which ought to be read alongside each other.  On The Other Side couldn’t be much further from The Winds of Heaven, but both exemplify what makes Persephone Books wonderful – books which enrich the reading life, whether through delightful fiction or thought-provoking non-fiction.

28 thoughts on “On The Other Side by Mathilde Wolff-Mönckeberg

  • December 18, 2012 at 12:26 am
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    Wow. This book sounds haunting and moving and I will definitely have to read it. I had no idea these kinds of memoirs existed, or at least, were readily available to English audiences. Thank you so much for bringing this book to all of our attention! And I thought it was a lovely review, perhaps because you picked quotes that so perfectly encapsulated your commentary.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:37 pm
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      Thank you so much, Samantha!
      I thought I knew a lot about women's experiences during the war, but I really only know about British women – there is so much more to explore!

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  • December 18, 2012 at 3:46 am
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    Wonderful review, Simon. This is one of the first Persephone books I bought but I still haven't read it, which is an outrageous oversight on my part. I have read quite a bit about women's experiences in Germany during and immediately after the war (mostly in academic books but also in more readily available diaries, like A Woman in Berlin) so I don't know how much of the information will be new to me but it is always interesting to encounter a new perspective even on events that are familiar. I think this is one of the best examples of the sheer variety that Persephone offers and I do hope they go on to publish more diaries like this.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:38 pm
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      Thank you, Claire!
      You're the second person who has mentioned A Woman in Berlin, so I can see I'll have to track that down too, after a pause.

      Hurray for Persephone and their variety!

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  • December 18, 2012 at 8:06 am
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    This sounds fascinating. I have a German friend who was born in 1939 and whose father, an unwilling conscript, was killed in 1945, just before the war ended. His accounts of life in Germany after the war have been an extraordinary eye-opener. I'd love to read this book — many thanks.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:38 pm
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      Thanks, Harriet. Did you friend's father keep any journal or similar?

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  • December 18, 2012 at 12:32 pm
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    This is one that I definitely want to read. I already have Nella Last on the shelf so I may indeed read them together as you suggest. Thanks for the review!

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:39 pm
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      Excellent! The similarities are as fascinating as the contrasts.

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  • December 18, 2012 at 2:03 pm
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    Really must order this.

    OK, done.

    As you suggest with Mathilde and Nella, I read Few Eggs and No Oranges in tandem with Berlin Diaries by Marie Vassiltchikov

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:40 pm
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      Fast work, Susan, well done!
      I did read FEANO six or seven years ago – well, I started it, but I didn't get very far, but I think I should try again.

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  • December 18, 2012 at 4:00 pm
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    I will definitely add this book to my tbr list. When I was still at school I have read quite a few war diaries, but mostly written by Poles or Russians, who survived the war (mostly those who survived different concentration camps). Relatively not long ago, after my friend gave me “A woman in Berlin”, I started reading books written by Germans or people living in Germany during the war. Also, I’ve read some books by authors who didn’t survive the war (like “The diary of a young girl” by Anne Frank or “My wounded heart” – the story of a Jewish doctor, who wrote letters to her family, friends and herself from the concentration camp). I think reading non-survivors stories it’s a completely different experience, it was for me anyway.

    Also, I would like to add something about the review itself, Simon. The fact, that in this one you mostly let the author speak, makes you (in my eyes) not only a great reviewer but also a great person.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:42 pm
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      That's such a lovely thing to say, Agnieszka, thank you.

      The Diary of a Young Girl was the first book which really got me interested in the war – so moving, of course, but what an exceptionally gifted writer too.

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  • December 18, 2012 at 5:36 pm
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    I do agree with you Simon – what I love about Persphones is their variety – this sounds harrowing but necessary.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:43 pm
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      It is extraordinary that a publisher can do this and the Monica Dickens, and somehow still have a unified 'type' of book – or rather a unified audience, so that I know I'll like nearly everything they publish, despite the variety.

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  • December 18, 2012 at 10:41 pm
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    It's a while since I read this, but I remember without looking back to what I wrote that the thing that struck me was how vivid it was and how the concerns on both sides were so similar, the difference being that one had a sense of rightness and the other didn't.

    And I think you do well by quoting extensively.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:45 pm
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      It is so striking, isn't it, that both sides experienced so many of the same events and emotions. Thanks, Jane.

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  • December 18, 2012 at 10:42 pm
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    If you're interested in reading about life during and after the war in the areas that were occupied by the Russians, try "Nothing for Tears" by Lali Horstmann and/or a recent novel based on the Horstmann memoir, "The Life of Objects" by Susanna Moore.

    And I'll second Susan D's recommendations above. Few Eggs and No Oranges and Berlin Diaries are both fascinating.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:47 pm
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      Thanks for all those recommendations – I like to space these things out, but definitely good to have a few ideas in reserve.

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  • December 19, 2012 at 7:48 am
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    In the spirit of more comments…….
    Thank you for that, the extracts give a very good feel of the book. I now think it will be my next Persephone purchase which would not necessarily have been the case were it not for your review.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:48 pm
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      Spirit recognised and appreciated!
      Thanks, Claire – I hope you value reading this.

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  • December 19, 2012 at 2:59 pm
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    This sounds like one I'd be very interested in reading – thank you for the thoughtful review, and the excerpts. Back story: My father was a German conscript-soldier (he was 16 when he was scooped away with his classmates from agricultural school where he was studying) in WW II, and his entire family (those who survived) was displaced, lost nearly every personal possession plus their family homes, and suffered greatly in every sense, physical & emotional, in the turmoil of Germany's eventual defeat. One of my aunts & her children were in Dresden during the notorious Allied fire-bombing raid. The voices of people like them – farmers, housewives, the elderly, the children – are often not heard in the larger clamour (& rightly so) of the appalling Jewish sufferings. I am so glad that there are some recordings of the broader experience of the "common" German people, too. Many were good, normal, ethical people, caught up in circumstances beynd their worst imaginings. I think many people now do not know quite how oppressive the German regime was in the years *before* the war, how any sort of discourse/protest was brutally dicouraged. This of course made the subsequent events of the internment/death camps much more possible; people were terrified & closed their eyes. And many truly did not know what was going on, being concerned overwhelmingly with personal survival. Nothing is so black and white as we'd like it to be, and these voices serve to remind us of that.

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    • December 19, 2012 at 9:50 pm
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      What a fascinating comment, thank you so much for contributing it! There are so many secondary angles on the horrors of war which have yet to be properly explored in print – or, at least, in my collection.

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  • December 19, 2012 at 4:02 pm
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    Ooh! I really want to read this n

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  • December 20, 2012 at 12:01 am
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    I try to purchase Persephones sparingly due to the price and shipping costs to the U.S. , but this book sounds like a must read; I will put it on my list. I have also read “Berlin Diaries” and found that book very interesting. I will also mention The Book Thief, which is fiction. I didn’t like it much, but that was more due to the writing style. I did think, however, that Zuzak did a good job in depicting what life might have been like for ordinary Germans under the Nazi regime.

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  • December 27, 2012 at 4:29 pm
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    What a wonderful review Simon. I cannot wait to read this when I get to it through the Persephone Project, its another title that highlights how wonderful and varied their books are.

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